I will be 27 in August. I’m not married and I don’t have any kids. However a hell of a lot of my close friends and associates are engaged, just got married, have babies, are due any day now…..you get the picture. You know what they say about us women. Our biological clock starts ticking and we go to itching to get married and pop out a few babies. I am not going to lie. Every time I see a baby, I melt, get googly eyes and say to my boyfriend, “I want one!” It’s wedding season now and this year (like every year before) I have begun watching WE, The Style Network, and TLC….with all of its Bridezillas, Platinum Weddings, Whose Wedding Is Anyway, and Say Yes To The Dress propaganda programming. I look at every thing wedding related on the internet (everything except engagement rings….I think my guy should pick that all by himself. I would love anything he picked out. EXCEPT 3 stone engagement rings…..been engaged with one of those before. I’ll pass.)
So am I jumping at the bit to get married. NO! This is why in a nutshell.
From 2007 to 2009, I went 5 weddings. Out of those 5 couples, only 2 are still happily married. 1 is already divorced. Another is filing for divorce very soon and the third one was headed for divorce but they are unhappily trying to make it work though it’s painfully obvious that they shouldn’t be together (we all knew that on the wedding day….that’s why none of the groom’s friends and extended family came). That doesn’t sound like a good statistic. It doesn’t necessarily deter me from getting married, but it does make me take a step back and evaluate my long-term decisions in love. When I get married, I only want to do it one time. ONCE. I want it to be forever…like those old people who are married for 75 years and stuff. So I want my and my boyfriend to take our time. Make sure that that is the direction that we are headed before we jump the broom into a mistake.
All signs point to a great union though. We have been living together for almost a year. (I know this may be morally wrong, but after growing up with my parents I think that this is important. I know that they love each other…..but they didn’t seem to like each other very much. I want to avoid that as much as possible. God knows my heart.) We have our ups and downs just like anybody else. But he is my soul mate. We read each others minds, finish each others sentences. We’ve been together 3 years and I still get excited to get off work and go home to see him. Sappy, isn’t it. He proposed to me a little over a year ago. (No ring….just a promise….so not official) He tells me at least once a week about how he really needs to get this ring so we can just do it already. (*blushes*) I tell him all the time that I love where we are. We both know that making the jump right now would be short of crazy because love doesn’t pay the bills, lol. We are maybe a year away from our career goals. Once real money starts coming in from me at least….I will say yes 1000 times. But for now….I’ll leave the wedding bells for those brave enough.