Who doesn’t love their grandmother? I do!! She can cook her ass off, was great for the weekend getaway when I was tired of my parents and she’s sweet as pie. Since my mom died last year, Ms. Grandma (yes, that’s what I call her) has been abnormally clingy. Since my mom is her daughter and we are the only grandkids that still live in state (and only an hour away), I didn’t mind that she wanted to see more of us. That was until my visits became not enough. Since Mother’s Day, I’ve been on strike until I get some kind of inkling that my feelings are being respected and taken into account. Not to mention that my days are pretty full with looking for a job, coordinating a move and just trying to regain a sense of normalcy, and trying to get my car fixed. I just really haven’t felt like being bothered. I know that’s kinda awful. I feel bad about it….a little bit.
Last night, Ms. Grandma calls me and the tone is harsh from the first hello. No “hey, how you doing” just “y’all just don’t call me at all no more, huh?!” *sighs* I JUST TALKED TO HER a few days ago. This call was one to convince me not to move. As have the last few calls have been. That’s the real reason she’s angry. Every time we talk it’s all the same “concerns” with a new one added in to just throw me off. It’s quite irritating. Here are a few of the tactics:
“Why are you even moving way down there in the first place?” It’s really only 2 1/2 hours, first off. I need to find a job ASAP. The job opportunities up here are non-existent for me unless I want to work at a factory. So I am going there for better networking, since all my colleagues are there and so I can have a better chance to get a job. I don’t have any children or anything that’s tying me here….so why not? (that always pisses her off)
“How do you know that Boo Thang’s mama wants you to stay there?” As I have explained 1000 times, staying with his mom is temporary until a security deposit for a new place to stay is saved. Won’t be there past October….and the end of the year is pushing it. Besides, she wanted me to come down there and stay with her by myself a year and a half ago because she thought I would find a better job down there….so this isn’t much of a stretch.
“How do you know you’re going to be able to even find a job down there?” Well, I can’t do any worse down there than I’m doing up here, can I? (Way to go for the support, though)
“What is your brother going to do if you leave? I sure wish you would think about that and not leave him here by himself!!” Umm….you do know he is 22 years old right? He’s not a baby and if people would quit having that attitude about the situation, everyone would be better off. He’s a guy. He has to learn how to make it on his own at SOME point.
“Why are you running away?” (This is in reference to my dad getting married.) I’m not running away. This decision was made long before I even knew they were getting married. We are just moving south and not north like we originally planned for money’s sake. Them getting married just made the decision all the more comforting.
To do this once a week is really exhausting. I love my Granny to death. I really do….but a little support is all I’m asking for. Can I get ONE thing?