Today I am linking up with Michelle from Divas With A Purpose on Thankful Thursday. At a time where I find SO many things to complain about I guess I do need to sit down and think about the things that I am truly grateful for and the things I am blessed to have.
- I am thankful for my eye surgery. Not only did I need to get that detached retina fixed, this afforded me a 2 week FMLA break from my job….which was well needed because I was feeling stuck.
- I am thankful for having such an understanding and caring boyfriend. I give thanks for him a lot because he’s my best friend. I really don’t know what I would do without him.
- I am thankful for this job, because even though I am not that fond of it right now, it allows me to do things that I haven’t been able to in a long while.
- I am thankful for family. We don’t always see eye to eye, but I love the fact that I can count on them at a moment’s notice.
What are you guys thankful for?
Hey there you guys!! It’s been a minute since I’ve posted and I haven’t updated on anything from the past couple weeks. So here are the updates.
1. I got the tests back fro, the amniocentesis that I had to get this morning. So far I am having a healthy baby boy…..who is a little on the small side. My test results came back abnormal for spinal defects but I am happy to report that there are no spinal defects, no chromosomal abnormalities…..nothing. The only thing that is a concern is that he is about 2 to 3 weeks behind in development size. This probably has everything to do with my high blood pressure. i am taking steps to take better care of myself to let little man have some growing room.
2. I MOVED!!!!! Boo Thang and I are no longer living with his mother and are currently getting settled into out new townhouse. I am so thankful for all the blessings that have been given to me over the past couple of months. It was past time for us to strike out on our own again and get back to the business of…..us
That’s the long and short of it!!
I know that my posting hasn’t been worth ish. Access to internet is limited and to be perfectly honest…..sometimes after working on a computer for 8+ hours a day, I really don’t feel like getting on one at home. But I am back and will be posting more regularly. So on to the announcement…..
I am 12 weeks pregnant!!!! It was a shock to both Jay and I, but why it was such a shock is beyond me lol. I’ve been off birth control for health reasons since October 2011. The rhythm method was working so well that I think we forgot that that mess wasn’t foolproof. So I’m going to be a mommy! My first thought was “Noooo…..I’m too young!!!” Then I realized that I am going to turn 29 in August. I’m really running out of time to have pregnancies that aren’t high risk ones. When I saw that positive Clear Blue Easy, I really just panicked. No other way to say it. I always try to schedule things where they go into their perfect place. Kids was supposed to come only after the career get on track and most importantly after marriage. Welp! Change in plans. Every day that passes, the more excited I become about bringing life into the world. The great part about it is that I have a loving partner that will be there every step of the way! So let’s have a drink to me (well y’all drink and I’ll watch). This blog will turn into a journal of my pregnancy with posts, rants, random commentary and pictures throughout the way!!
Now this song makes me feel just a tad guilty. I am miles away from home and sometimes I don’t even call. No one but my brother calls me….so sometimes I only feel the need to make sure I talk to him on regular basis. This song is all about families…relationships that I really don’t have.
Ignorance (or witlessness) is a state of being uninformed (lack of knowledge). The word ignorant is an adjective describing a person in the state of being unaware and is often used as an insult. — Wikipedia
One of my gripes with my stepmother is that she refuses to let my dad be himself. My dad is one of those people who watches the news DAILY. I’m talking about morning and night. He also has subscriptions to many newspapers. He reads Black Enterprise, TIME, Reader’s Digest, and a plethora of other magazines. In short, my dad is a guy that still has a thirst for knowledge at his age. This is a major issue for his wife. *blank stare* She thinks that he is wasting his time doing all that because none of those things has anything to do with him. *blank stare* When my dad told me this, I immediately placed her on the “basic bitch” list. (More things that I have learned from my brother have led me to believe that no amount of help will get her off this list, but I digress.) I thought that this mentality was based off the fact that she was older and has a small world mentality. I was wrong. More and more I find that this is more common than I thought….in MY age group and younger.
My parents raised me in manner that I think has benefited me over the years. The motto of the house was: “If you don’t know something, look it up. There is no excuse to be ignorant.” My dad encouraged reading, so there was never a shortage of newspapers, books, encyclopedias and magazines in our house. My mother was an interactive learner, so anytime we expressed interest in something, she bought everything National Geographic video on the subject. My brother took an interest in Pearl Harbor and the whole house became World War II enthusiasts (helped me out in history classes throughout my life!). I took an interest in space and the whole house was able to name all the Lucky 7 astronauts and when they took off on the first Apollo missions. But I get that everyone was not as lucky to have parents like mine.
There is a common trend that being ignorant to the happenings of the world is okay as long as it’s not directly affecting them. Then those same people get upset when other people around them follow what’s going on in the world. I think it’s crazy to be that way, but I don’t get mad people for it. I just don’t get too close to you because I enjoy rational conversations on a regular basis. There is only so often that I can talk to someone on a subject (usually that they initiate), realize they know absolutely nothing on it, and try to prevent attacks on my character because I actually read up on it. As technology grows, I am amazed at how it’s being misused. You go on Facebook, Twitter, and MediaTakeOut to find out “news” and spread it. Then get mad at me because I tell you it’s false. There is a such thing as Google….you’re on the internet all day anyway. *in my Everest College commercial voice* If you don’t like some of things that the media reports, be selective and not buy into all of it. That doesn’t mean that media is bullshit or that everyone else is crazy. We all just have preferences.
It’s time out for people preferring to know nothing because it suits them. At least if you plan to be willfully ignorant, don’t be mad at me because I like to find these things out. As my dad said, there really is no excuse.
Since my dad got married in July, I have decided that I would stay out of that situation. There is nothing that I can do or say….so I leave it alone. The fact that I was moving that next month as the perfect scenario for it all. They could have their rushed marriage and I wouldn’t have to witness it. Seems like the more I try to stay out of it, the more I hear crap about it. I have more than a few gripes with her.
1. The honeymoon phase is over.
SERIOUSLY?!?!? These folks have been married for 5 months. This has got to be the shortest honeymoon phase that I have ever seen. It’s not like they have been together for a long time. Hell they just met in January. This January. Of 2011. Every time I talk to my dad on the phone, he’s in the doghouse for this, that, or the other thing. This just makes me sound like a genius when I asked what the rush was. She was all infatuated with his ass while they were dating, but now she apparently doesn’t like the man that my dad is. *side eye* She doesn’t like that he talks a lot to people. My dad will talk to a tree….that’s the kinda guy he is. He never meets a stranger. Let me be the first to say that MY MOTHER loved him for who he was. Talking too damn much and all. She doesn’t know why he likes to watch the news so much because that stuff doesn’t have anything to do with him. *record scratch* Why the hell are you 44 years old
saying stupid shit like that thinking that things that happen in the world around you don’t impact you? She has GOT to be the simplest person I have ever met.
2. She is very insecure.
She doesn’t like for my dad to have any interactions with people of the opposite sex. NONE. No women should call him on the phone for any reason. He shouldn’t look at other women (as if he lived in a world where only she lived). My dad is a shade tree mechanic in his spare time. He can’t even work on cars that are owned by women, unless they belong to her. *sighs*
3. She has a problem with him giving any financial help to his children.
Now THIS one is the one that grinds my gears. She is financially irresponsible…..a new development since they’ve been together. She has been used to taking care of all the bills for her own house (which he lives now). Apparently he’s responsible for taking care of everything while she goes out to buy $300 Coach purses. He is also supposed to take care of her 2 children that live there too. But when his own children need something, that becomes a problem. She has said that I wasn’t raised right because I live with a man who isn’t married. I almost went to jail over that statement. This was spoken from a woman who has two children with two different fathers and my dad is her FIRST husband. *sighs* I’m a daddy’s girl, even with all this mess. My dad has my back without me having to ask….so if I need help of any type, he will be there. She actually got snapped on for this comment.
For these reasons, that bitch is not my stepmother…she’s my dad’s wife. A stepmother gets in there and at least TRIES to get to know her stepchildren. She gets in there with my brother but she tries to isolate me. She knows that I am not down with the bullshit. I don’t fake the funk with anybody, especially not with anybody that I don’t think will stick around long. She doesn’t think I know all of this stuff. I let her live Thanksgiving, but Christmas…..stay tuned. She has used all three of her strikes up with me…..I wonder if she knows it…..
Sometimes I feel like when it rains, it pours. I have been extra pouty over the last couple of days because every time something seems to look up in my life, it somehow takes an extra turn and goes a little sour for me. I am one of those people that is a little afraid to get excited about certain things because I don’t want to be disappointed later on. So here’s what’s been going on.
- The start date of my new job has been delayed until January 23rd. I was told that it was delayed because even though they have me in the system they have not started on my background check as of November 14th….the date that I was supposed to start. This is extra irritating to me because I have been on the phone with those people back and forth since I got hired. I’ve been breaking my neck trying to find old W2s and checkstubs (which proved to be hard because we have moved and still haven’t found a new place for important documents to go) to fax in to them. I think that if I am being prompt then as a business you should be too. I feel really bad about this because Boo Thang has since picked up a second job. Mind you he did this because he wanted to have extra Christmas money, but it LOOKS like he’s slaving away while I am at home doing nothing (at least this is what I heard it looks like *rolls eyes*). I was looking forward to this job because it means that we could get our own place really soon…..but it looks like that dream is deferred.
- My computer crashed. It has EVERYTHING on it. Plus it was my best mode of entertainment thus far. Bye, HP…..it’s been fun.
- My dad is depressed because it doesn’t seem like his marriage is working…..after 4 months and 15 days. I
told him that shit was not going to work back in June sympathize with him just a little bit. That’s my daddy. He really is good people….too good to be mistreated by an immature, insecure golddigger.
- Boo Thang and I need our own place. ASAP. I am starting not to feel like an adult anymore and this is a SERIOUS problem for me as I have always been a pretty independent person.
So these are my gripes. They are all workable….but sometimes it just feels good to pout about it, listen to slow jams and drink wine.
While Boo Thang and I were living in Oxford, we had a good bit of pressure from my extended family to go on ahead and get married. Most of it came from the fact that we were living together. My family is really old fashioned in that way. My pastor at the time even sat us both down when my mom went into hospice care and told us how we needed to get married before my mom died. My mom was NOT going!!! She really didn’t want us to rush things because of her and gave Jay her blessing for whenever we were ready. We decided at that point that we would work at our own pace
and not let outside pressure influence us. We were under the impression that our move closer to his family would erase that element from our relationship. WRONG!!!!
Boo Thang has a second cousin who
has been deemed nuttier than squirrel shit is a little on the strange side. Apparently this woman (who I haven’t had the pleasure of meeting yet) and Boo Thang’s mama have been communicating on the phone a pretty good bit about me, him and our relationship track. One day after we had been out all day, there was a BIG package waiting at home for me. I opened it up to reveal a box that says David’s Bridal on the front. In my mind I’m going “please don’t let this be a dress, please don’t let this be a dress!” It’s a wedding dress. *sighs* Inside the dress box is a letter that reads:
This is [name omitted]. I know that you don’t know me but I have heard a lot about you and your relationship with Boo Thang. I want to do something to help you guys out. The Lord led me to pick out this wedding dress for you. I felt the spirit of your mother and grandmother leading me to this particular dress and I know that they are pleased and smiling down on you. This is my gift to you, you don’t owe me anything….BUT you have to use this dress by November 17th! I am excited to attend your upcoming wedding.
WTF?!?! WHO BUYS A WOMAN A WEDDING DRESS?!?!?!?! Furthermore who buys someone a dress with stipulations. My natural reaction to that letter was to laugh. Boo Thang’s was to snap off….hard. He said, “she means November 17th….of this year….as in next month? Oh hell naw!!” To add insult to injury, this dress is
hideous not the wedding dress for me. It doesn’t fit and Boo Thang has seen me in it. So even if I liked it, I couldn’t use it. I’m superstitious like that. He’s slightly pissed at his mom for not stopping this in it’s tracks. My thoughts are “dang…here we go again!”
With me getting a job (still turning cartwheels over that) we are closer to that. We refused to get married still having to ask our parents for basic living needs….or still living in his mom’s house. People don’t seem to understand exactly what our plans are. We are heading that way….but can we PLEASE make some money. What I want to say to all parties involved is:
IF YOU WANT US TO GET MARRIED SO BAD, PAY FOR IT!!!!! I AM NOT HAVING A COURTHOUSE WEDDING…..so do you still want us to rush now? Thought so. Oh and that down payment on a new place….we’re gonna need that too. *rolls eyes*